Hello, I'm Steph, the founder of Malabae. A few days ago, a friend and I were discussing co-sleeping and how our perceptions shifted as we navigated the journey of becoming parents. Initially, we were hesitant about co-sleeping due to concerns about its perceived risks. However, as we experienced the joys and challenges of parenthood with our firstborns, our perspectives evolved.
Co-sleeping, the practice of parents and infants sharing a sleeping space, has long been a topic of both fascination and controversy in the realm of parenting. While some advocate for its benefits in fostering parent-child bonding and facilitating nighttime feeding, others express concerns about potential safety risks, such as suffocation or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Amidst these debates, my journey with co-sleeping alongside my daughter Mila provided invaluable insights, challenging preconceptions and nurturing our familial bond.
Myth: Co-sleeping is always dangerous.
Truth: Co-sleeping can be safe when practiced correctly.
At just 2 months old, Mila inadvertently became my comforting sleep partner. It all began when I would unintentionally drift off while breastfeeding her. Despite initial apprehensions, we swiftly adapted, meticulously ensuring a safe sleeping environment. We prioritized a firm mattress, eliminated loose bedding, and remained vigilant to ensure sobriety and alertness. Over time, as Mila grew, so did our confidence in our co-sleeping routine. She nestled between my husband and me, with me adopting a protective C-shape around her. This positioning ensured that if my husband moved, he would reach me before coming into contact with her, enhancing our sense of security and peace of mind during our shared sleep.
Myth: Co-sleeping ruins a baby's sleep habits.
Truth: Co-sleeping can foster healthy sleep patterns.
Contrary to popular belief, Mila's co-sleeping journey didn't hinder her ability to sleep independently. By gradually introducing her to her crib while still occasionally co-sleeping, Mila learned to appreciate both experiences. This gentle transition nurtured her confidence and autonomy in her sleep routine, promoting healthy sleep habits.
Myth: Co-sleeping prevents independence in children.
Truth: Co-sleeping can complement a child's journey to independence.
As Mila blossomed into a curious and independent toddler, our co-sleeping arrangement evolved. While still treasuring our shared moments, we embraced the opportunities for Mila to explore her own sleeping space. Encouraging independence while respecting her need for closeness enriched our bond and nurtured her burgeoning sense of self.
Reflecting on our co-sleeping journey with Mila, it's evident that myths surrounding this practice often overshadow its potential benefits. From fostering a secure attachment to nurturing healthy sleep habits, co-sleeping can be a fulfilling choice for families. However, it's essential to approach it with diligence, prioritizing safety and individual preferences.
Moreover, co-sleeping with Mila brought unexpected joys for me as well. I found that having her nestled in my arms not only comforted her but also helped me sleep better. The convenience of not having to get up during the night made it easier to fall back asleep after a feed, allowing us both to enjoy more restful nights.
What other Co-Sleeping Parents Say About It:
Parents who co-sleep, using a bedside bassinet to avoid any safety pitfalls, tout the practice as a way to improve sleep for both their babies and them and bolster the parent-child bonding experience. Here’s why these parents decided room sharing was for them:
“Our daughter sleeps in our room but in her [bassinet]…We have a co-sleeper too, but she doesn’t like to sleep in that. I love having her in our room.” — Sienna.
“I have seven kids and chose to co-sleep with all. It meant more sleep for both of us, and it was a great way to bond. I have the cot beside me against my bed, so there’s no chance of rolling on top or overheating.” — Martha
“It makes my husband and me feel safer, knowing our daughter is okay in case there’s a fire or a break-in. Plus, those extra hours that we get to spend with her in the morning or at night mean so much to us because we both have very hectic schedules.” — Priea
Sources:
https://www.thebump.com/a/myths-and-truths-about-co-sleeping